I Don’t Need You to Believe in Me. I Believe in Me

Have you ever felt so confident in your own ability that you no longer need anyone to affirm or believe in you?

That’s where I’m at with most things I pursue.

There are only a few people in my life who, when they say they’re going to do something, I believe them because they’ve proven time and time again that they follow through. I’m exactly the same. With most of the things that I say I'm going to do, I achieve them. The things I don’t end up pursuing either are no longer a priority or I shelf them for a different timeline. Over the years, I’ve thrown myself into everything from writing books, blogging, launching podcasts, starting a charitable trust, building a production company, delivering programs, putting on events, and performing shows and more.

What I’ve had to come to terms with is this: even when I prove myself through action, every single day, there will still be people who don’t believe in me. That’s not a "woe is me" statement. That’s just life. This is who I am.

I share my wins. I share the behind-the-scenes. I share the real stuff. I’m not going to shrink or stop being me just because others don’t get me or worse, they misunderstand me. As I’ve achieved more, my goals have grown too. And even now, people still don’t believe in the goals I set. But that’s fine. I don’t need your approval. I don’t need your validation. I don’t need you to understand what I’m doing. I’m doing this for me.

Here are a few things I’ve learned:

1. I know what I’m capable of and I also don’t. Because I haven’t even stepped into some of the spaces that will take me to the next level. But I’m already standing in places I never imagined I’d reach. I keep moving forward. That’s enough.

2. Some say don’t share your goals with others. Others say do. Honestly? Do what works for you. At the end of the day, whether you share them or not you still have to be the one who believes in them and backs them.

3. Don’t let anybody else claim your success. Yes, people help along the way and I’m always grateful. But it was you that got up every day. It was you that kept going when you were overwhelmed. It was you who moved when you had no time, no money, and no clarity. You made the way. Own that.

4. Not everyone can come with you. Some people will get jealous, and they’ll try to pull you back to where they feel comfortable. Let them go. You don’t owe everyone access to your journey.

5. I’ve had to create every opportunity myself. I wasn’t handed stages, funding, recognition, or backing. I built it. And no, I don’t always get it right the first time. But I get better every time. I learn how to do it better. I learn how to do it smarter.

6. I’ve learned to execute even when it’s not perfect. Sometimes I just hit go. I release it. I post it. I launch it. Even if it’s messy or not fully polished. Why? Because that’s how I learn. Action has taught me more than perfection ever has.

7. I’ve learned to be okay putting myself out there. Whether people see it from my perspective or not that’s on them. I’m not here to be flawless. I’m here to be real, to grow, to move.

8. You don’t have to wait until it’s all lined up. Just start. Start before you feel ready. Start before it’s all clear. Movement creates momentum. And momentum changes everything.

The one thing that keeps me going is that I genuinely feel proud of what I’ve built. Yes, I’ve been judged. People have critiqued my leadership, my execution, my delivery, even my decisions. They’ve told me they could do it better. They’ve offered every reason why I shouldn’t be the one in the position I’m in. But most of the time, those people aren’t actually building anything themselves. They’re not taking risks. They’re not creating. And often, they only speak from the sidelines, not the arena.

That’s why I don’t take it to heart. Because the people who are walking the same path the ones who know how hard it is to carry the weight of vision, creativity, and leadership they don’t come at you with judgment. They come with empathy. They offer tips, not attacks. Encouragement, not critique. They get it.

And at the end of the day, I’m not here to prove anything to people who don’t see the full picture. I’m here because I’ve got something in me that won’t let me settle. I’ve come too far, built too much, and grown through too many seasons of doubt to give any weight to small-minded noise.

So I’ll keep showing up. I’ll keep building. I’ll keep creating opportunities out of thin air.

Because I believe in me, and that will always be enough.