Becoming the Woman I Said I’d Be

Nobody can really explain to you what it means to become the best version of yourself. You can read all the books, listen to all the podcasts, study all the successful people in the world, but unless you carve out your own path, you’ll never truly understand it.

Becoming your best self isn’t something anyone can hand to you. It’s something you have to walk through. And that walk is lonely.

You’ll have people along the way who will support you, genuinely believe in you, and celebrate your wins. You’ll also have people who think they are supporting you, but they are not supporting you in a way that is actually helpful. They support you from their own perspective of what they think is right for you, and that doesn’t always align with what is best for you. Then there are people who simply will not support you at all.

That’s why it’s so important to know yourself more than anyone else ever could. When you truly know who you are, where you are going, and why you are going there, your decisions start to align with your truth. You begin to recognise who to listen to, who to distance yourself from, what to let go of, and what parts of yourself you need to improve.

Knowing yourself is not just about identity, it is about direction. It’s how you stay grounded when everything around you is changing. It’s how you protect your peace when everyone has an opinion about your path. And it’s how you make sure you are still becoming the woman you said you would be, not the woman others think you should be.

If there is one thing I have learned along the way, it is that it is hard to become the best version of you. It is hard to achieve your goals. It is lonely. It’s hard to stay focused when you’re surrounded by distractions and people who don’t always understand what you’re trying to do. It’s hard to keep pushing when you feel like no one really sees the effort it takes.

It’s not that people don’t care, it’s just that they can’t fully understand the depth of what you carry. The vision you hold, the discipline it takes, the constant self-talk to keep going when you feel like giving up. You have to keep reminding yourself that the path you’re on is yours. No one else can walk it for you.

Sometimes you’ll doubt yourself, question if you’re even on the right path, wonder if you’re doing enough or if you’re wasting your time. But the truth is, every step forward, even the slow ones, is progress. Every time you choose discipline over comfort, focus over distraction, you’re becoming stronger, sharper, and closer to the version of yourself you’ve been chasing.

For me, I have a version of the wahine I believe God destined me to be. I can see her so clearly in my heart, but I know I’m still nowhere near what He envisioned of me. Still, it is my faith in Him and in myself that keeps me moving when things get hard. I know He is shaping me through every challenge, teaching me patience, strength, and surrender.

It’s living and learning to accept who I am while knowing that I am still becoming. Every year I get there a little faster. There is this in-between space where I’m no longer sitting at the same table, but I’m also stepping into spaces I’ve never been before. I don’t have the prior experiences to give me the comfort of knowing I’m on the right track. I’m stuck between the old version of me and the new version I don’t even know well yet.

But that’s the space where growth happens. That’s where faith is tested. That’s where you learn to walk by trust, not certainty.

And maybe that’s what this whole journey is about. Learning to be okay in the in-between. Trusting that even when it feels uncertain, God is still guiding every step. Becoming the woman I said I’d be isn’t about arriving, it’s about continuing. It’s about faith, patience, and the quiet courage to keep going when no one’s clapping, when no one understands, and when the only voice you can hear is the one inside that says, keep walking.

Because one day, I’ll look back and realise that every test, every lonely night, every leap of faith was shaping me into exactly who I was always meant to be.